I wanted to call him over to me. I wanted his hands and his body and some relief from this stretching out of my skin. I imagine that he spent an age over the drying because he wanted me to enjoy my time of longing, but I am not sure I enjoyed the long minutes of waiting. When he came to me finally, I could have ripped the duct tape off the pole and finished in a second but I did nothing. Said nothing. He examined me. I felt his hands still dripping with dishwashing liquid, lifting, pulling separating.
Of course I knew how this would end, but still there was this little shivery thrill as he traced the ridge of bone arcing down from the center of my back, slipping his finger over, but not into, my anus, and hooking it into my vagina, testing the viscosity there. I thought of dissection tables, dead things tied down, paws and legs splayed, bellies exposed to the glare of fluorescent light. The fact that this aroused me was perhaps a problem. It was the idea of him watching me like that, the openness, the vulnerability.
On paper, Affection is everything I hate in books: 1. It's a memoir 2. It has super short chapters pages 3. It has a LOT of sex that I was sure would pretend to shock in the pursuit of poignancy 5. It is frank to the point that I thought we'd end up in smugsville Alas, I should have trusted Krissy Kneen because when have Australian writers let me down? No other author or fictional character, for that matter has laid themselves quite as bare -- seriously, EVER. If I had a grain of this woman's courage, I'd be satisfied. And it is intelligent, funny, despairing, illuminating, and hopeful all at the same time.
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As you can see, I'm quoting a ridiculous amount but I'm in love with this book and Krissy Kneen 's thoughts about feminism, erotica as a genre, and gender bias in literature. I like the term pornographic. It is a more challenging word than erotic. Pornographic work is what it is. It clearly states the purpose that the work is used for.
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Pornography is stuff you are aroused by. I like how confronting the word is to some people and I think it speaks to the confrontation I am trying to cause by my work. It is another gendered separation. We often think of pornography as the stuff consumed by a man and erotica as stuff consumed by a woman to become aroused and we load those terms up with value judgements - erotica is softer, gentler, more concerned with love and relationships seems to be the general view although not my own.
Pornography is a term we often use when the sex is separated from love. Well that is the work I have been doing in Holly [her newest novel], separating sex and love and suggesting the pure arousal is powerful and different to a narrative of love. These are loaded terms although they shouldn't be. Affection defies these pitfalls with its completely honest, vulnerable narrator and its subtle commentary on gender and sexuality of the modern female. That isn't to say that the narrator's honesty leaves her impervious to criticism; quite the opposite.
The decision to expose herself physically and emotionally is why Affection shines.
Part of this gender bias flows through to our relationship to sex writing. When I say a sex book is not going to win any awards I really mean that a sex book by a woman is not going to win any awards. They are all concerned primarily with sex. Yet these writers are considered literary writers and not erotic writers. I don't see how my work around sex is any different and yet I am considered a writer of erotica.
I think that there is a gendered perception that women writing about sex is somehow different to men writing about sex and is not treated as seriously.
I haven't done an exhaustive study in this area but I would love it if someone did. I sometimes feel like I will never be taken as seriously as a male writer who is dealing with the same subject matter. My wonderful friend Christos Tsiolkas for example could win an award for his sex writing but I don't think I ever will. Happy to be proven wrong of course, but I feel like his work is every bit as concerned with sexuality as mine is and yet people don't think ,"Ah Christos, he is a writer of erotica".
Perceptions are everything in this business. Interview with Krissy Kneen, November 3, A hidden gem, to say the very least. Even if you don't end up enjoying the book it's inevitably polarizing , Kneen's philosophical thoughts about gender and sexuality are worth a look. Apr 26, David rated it it was amazing Shelves: aww A pleasurable book of many unusual excellences. The promise of sex drew me in, yet, although there is perhaps more sex in this book than most and of delicious, though not exhaustive, variety , it is not really a work of erotica. The smooth writing kept me reading.
There are some lovely developing metaphors, e. A wriggling fish of thought, fleeting, gone in a second, but ther A pleasurable book of many unusual excellences. A wriggling fish of thought, fleeting, gone in a second, but there will be another and another, whole schools of thought flashing across my consciousness. The constant distractions of a sexual world as wonderful and varied as the ocean, a world I could drown myself in and die happy.
The structure does a lot of work, allowing us to follow Kneen's sexual growth from age 2 and her first orgasm to age 28, while scaffolding this narrative with fragments of the present The book sets up expectations and thwarts them, it asks questions and doesn't answer them, and, in doing so, it talked to me about sex and women and all sorts of important things, in an elliptical fashion. It dispenses with the traditional machinery — the psychiatric analysis of Kneen's early childhood, the rich portrayal of her mental states, the detailed description of her milieu, the political awareness of the times, a tidy coming-of-age resolution — in favour of a focussed, 'thin description'.
An intelligent, mature, demanding work. This memoir was so intense?
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I'm not sure what word to use. I was expecting something sexy and risque. These pages were filled with her finding and becoming these sexual realizations, urges, explorations, not only with herself but with other people. I found it so interesting that she explains at such an early age younger than 10 but she was raised SO sheltered. There were parts that had me to grossed out that I gagged a little. As she grew into her womanhood, it seemed like no holds barred and This memoir was so intense?
As she grew into her womanhood, it seemed like no holds barred and she had a difficult time loving herself and others because of it. Feb 10, Kat at Book Thingo rated it it was amazing Shelves: australian-authors , keepers , non-fiction , review-copies. Read my full review at Book Thingo Sometimes you find a book impossible to put down, not because of what it says about the world, but because of what it knows about you.
Affection is that kind of book.
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Who might enjoy it: Libertines Who might not enjoy it: Prudes Affection is, at times, almost unbearably honest. Worst is the emotional cruelty Kneen endures at the hands of Read my full review at Book Thingo Sometimes you find a book impossible to put down, not because of what it says about the world, but because of what it knows about you.
Worst is the emotional cruelty Kneen endures at the hands of careless lovers and friends. Apr 25, Cathy McLennan rated it it was amazing. Krissy is a great writer - the prose in Affection reminds me of an Olympic gymnast, so fluid and natural with seemingly no effort behind the easy flow of the words. The subject matter is at times confronting. The world Krissy depicts in her book is a world few of us will have experienced and she is immensely brave to allow us to delve into her most intimate moments, from the sweet interactions with her family, to the humiliating encounters with Brian.
We see Krissy at her most vulnerable, such as Krissy is a great writer - the prose in Affection reminds me of an Olympic gymnast, so fluid and natural with seemingly no effort behind the easy flow of the words. We see Krissy at her most vulnerable, such as in her dealings with Brian and Jessica, and cruel in her apparent enjoyment of the humiliation of the boys in the threesomes.
It is a journey through life of someone who sees things from a different perspective from the norm.
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It is not erotica, but it is about sex. May 26, Amra Pajalic rated it really liked it. This book has been on my radar for a while. It's the story of Krissy's exploration of sexual desire. Kneen is a great writer who tells her story of sexual exploration and acceptance with great honesty and forthrightness. There are moments of great eroticism as she lays out her sexual adventures and revelations. Kneen has also written a book of erotic short stories and I'll be following this up. View 1 comment.
Jan 04, Kristy 0 rated it it was amazing Shelves: own. I have a personalised signed copy of this one. A beautiful memoir from the first time published Brisbane author.
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I met her at a book launch and she is every bit as open and sincere in real life as she comes across in the book. Needless to say I recommend this book, but it will not be everyone's cup of tea. Feb 29, Gina rated it liked it Shelves: , kindle-purchase. A fantastic read. Looks deeply at the issues of intimacy, commitment, relationships and lust.